Sunday, December 26, 2010

Stress: You CAN Manage It!

Stressssssssss...that word even sounds stressful, doesn't it? Stress can be positive or negative. In fact, from the moment our big toe hits the cold floor on a chilly morning, our body is experiencing stress because stress is simply change. Hans Selye, a Montreal stress researcher, talked about stress as the body's fight or flight response to a situation. We either stay and deal with the stress or we flee from it, avoiding it. This topic is certainly timely given the stress we often experience at the height of the holiday season.

What is it about stress that has us so stressed out? Our bodies tense up. We may feel nervous and sweaty. We may experience knots in our stomach, chest and at the back of our neck. And we worry, wringing our hands as the stress engulfs us. In effect, it feels like we are losing our stripes!

Certain techniques can help when we are in the throes of a stress reaction. One is to tell yourself "STOP" and then take a deep breath, hold it for 10 seconds, and release it. Do this three times in a row and you will begin to feel the calm settle in your body. This is a great technique to practice right before an exam, or job interview or while driving in heavy traffic. Another effective technique for managing stress is total body relaxation. This involves lying flat, and starting at the top of your body, tense and release each muscle. Doing yoga and meditation also help release stress.

Prevention is key to managing stress rather than letting stress manage you. Here are some of my favorites:
  1. Have a balanced lifestyle
  2. Eat nutritious foods - whole grains, fruits and veggies and drink plenty of water
  3. Exercise daily - take a walk!
  4. Do what you enjoy and learn to enjoy what you do
  5. Engage in meaningful activities and hobbies
  6. Set realistic goals and work to achieve them
  7. Set aside some quiet time daily to reflect and meditate
  8. Learn to say "no" to others when you must and "yes" to yourself more often
  9. Reach out - develop a support network of friends and family and surround yourself with positive people
  10. Play and laugh often - we forget to do this when we are feeling stressed

So when you find yourself stressing out this holiday season, STOP and ask yourself: "Is this really worth losing my stripes?"

    Monday, December 20, 2010

    Seeing is Believing

    This is not what you think about seeing something and then believing it. What I am about to tell you is that what you see in your mind's eye and what you believe, actually comes to fruition in your life. Some people call it coincidence, others providence or serepindipity. It's linked to a process involving creative visualization and I believe that it comes from a power greater than ourselves.

    We go over something in our mind, seeing it unfold. Then we find ourselves there, living it, experiencing it! How did we do that? How can we NOT do that? This is the power of life, love and the greater good aligning to help us along our journey. We need only have faith that all is unfolding according to a greater plan and exactly as it should. We don't force it, for that would be unnatural..

    An important part to this seeing is also believing that we are worthy, that we deserve what we see in our mind's eye. When I know inside that I must do a certain something, I simply let myself be led and the rest follows. It's a miraculous process, and the way life falls into place is a miracle. We often hear that Christmas is a time of miracles. I think that maybe, just maybe, we are a little more open to the miracles of life around Christmas time. Are you open and attuned to the miracles in your life?