Thursday, May 30, 2013

Living Loss

Grief is a natural adaptive response to loss. Loss is part of living. As we live, we lose people, places and things. There are many kinds of loss: identity and social roles, relationships, health and mobility, geography, lifestyle, dreams, and more. This post focuses on non-death loss.

Essentially, loss is a process:
Loss = Change = Transition = Adjustment

J. William Worden’s Four Tasks of Grief Model shows how we go through loss related to bereavement of a death. I’ve adapted this model slightly to reflect how we can approach grieving a non-death loss:
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  1. Accepting the reality of the loss (Loss)
  2. Working through the pain of grief/loss (Change)
  3. Adjusting to a changed environment (Transition)
  4. Emotionally relocating the loss and moving on with life (Adjustment)

During her videoconference presentation on Demystifying Grief, Dawn Cruchet, Montreal Grief Counselor, said: “One loss awakens another one.” (May 29, 2013). In other words, when we experience a loss, this brings to the fore, other sometimes unresolved losses/grief. Cruchet explained that grief never ends; the feelings just become more bittersweet as the memory moves from raw pain as we adjust to what is.

I’ve experienced this process myself: leaving a long-term relationship. I've also seen the non-death loss with my own clients--leaving job, career, marriage, home, dealing with Alzheimer-stricken family members or their own health decline, empty nest, de-cluttering, and other compelling life transitions, such as burnout and major life events that sometimes occur unexpectedly. The common denominator is change that necessitates learning through mourning a loss and that eventually leads to adjustment and growth. We find new ways of living our lives despite the loss, and sometimes because of it.

What life losses have led you to through change, transition and adjustment? What have you learned about yourself?

Empowerment coaching can help you leverage what you learn about yourself through transition to make sustainable changes in your life. Call: 514-996-2414 for a consultation.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

A Life in Balance

Life balance can be precarious and delicate. This topic is often on the minds of many of us as we strive for greater work-life balance, seek to minimize stress and look to lead a happy life.
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Here are some points to ponder:
  • How does your life measure up?
  • How are you holding yourself back from balance?
  • What common behaviors and actions can cause imbalance and complicate your life?
  • Structure your professional and personal life to avoid burnout, improve physical and emotional well-being, improve the quality of your relationships, create 'me time' and make room for personal development
  • De-clutter all aspects of your life
  • Uncover those unnecessary tasks, responsibilities, habits, thoughts and behaviors that cause stress in your life
  • Analyze what these are costing you (in time, energy, money)
  • Make a plan to streamline your life and create 'white space' in your agenda

A client attending my group coaching session on work-life balance recently said that "no" is also something to think about when considering life balance. Know that "No." is a complete sentence. I often ask my coaching clients: What do you have to let go of (say "No" to) in order to attract more of? 

This impacting 7-minute video illustrates balance as being contingent on a feather. What does this video tell us about life balance? How does this balancing act resonate with your own quest for life balance?

Empowerment coaching can help you achieve greater work-life balance and align with your true purpose. For a free consultation, call: 514.996.2414

Friday, May 17, 2013

Ten Tips for Success in Business

At MoMondays Montreal this week, Montreal Entrepreneur and Author, Herman Alves, talked about his illustrious career in business, giving ten tips for success. Basic, yet true, these tips serve as a reminder to those of us in the trenches of self-employment and entrepreneurship:
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  1. Everything is possible
  2. You need a burning desire to succeed
  3. Have a destination - the route is both strategic and tactical
  4. The two E's: Emotion and Energy (Think Passion)
  5. Be willing and able to take risks
  6. Cultivate the attitude of a missionary (Do what you love and believe in and the money will follow)
  7. Do it NOW
  8. Be proactive
  9. An action creates a reaction - we never do anything for nothing.
  10. Be creative and set yourself apart

How do these tips resonate with you? What is your business success story?

Seeking empowerment coaching to create greater success in your work and life? I'd welcome the opportunity to work with you! Call me: 514.996.2414 for a free consultation.

Friday, May 10, 2013

Let the Money Flow

Money doesn't grow on trees. Money is the root of all evil. Spend and save equally. Money makes the world go around. Did you grow up with ay of these messages about money? Or others perhaps? How have these compelling messages shaped your belief about money and its place in your life?

You see, money is a resource, a tool. It flows around us and through us. We give money. We receive money. When we hold tight to money, feeling a lack in its flow around us, we are telling the universe that we are undeserving and unworthy. Money will indeed be tight and scarce. When we think abundance, we act as if. We attract money to us. Try this next time you walk into a store and observe yourself thinking that you cannot afford to buy anything.

Go with the flow around money. A few affirmations I like to use are:
  • Financial abundance is now coming to me easily and effortlessly (Shakti Gawain).
  • I am living in abundance.
  • I am prosperous.
  • I am wealthy.
  • I am financially secure.

Then stop worrying. You have put your wish out to the ethers. Let money flow back. And it will.

What compelling messages have you told yourself about money that may have you stuck and not in flow with money and financial abundance?

Empowerment coaching can help you harness the abundance in all areas of your life. For a complimentary discovery session, call: 514.996.2414.